Friday, December 20, 2013

Backseat Drivers

Instead of putting him on the bus, I decided to take my oldest son to school today. At one point, I looked in the rearview mirror at my boys (my other son is 3) sitting in the backseat...and that's when this thought hit me:

I hate backseat drivers!


If you've been driving long enough, you've had a least one passenger in the car with you who felt it was their responsibility to alert you of every perceived danger on the road, constantly check your speedometer, and point out every time you failed to use a turn signal. And to top it all off, they have assigned themselves to the task of using the imaginary brake pedal located on the floor mat immediately in front of them. It's so annoying! If you couple any (or all) of these together with the gasping, squealing, and "look out! look out!" sounds that seem to flow like mighty rivers out of the offender's pie hole, it's enough to make you want to drive the car off of a cliff!

So, what does this have to do with my boys in the backseat? Did they aggravate me today with their backseat driving? No. In fact, it was their lack of backseat driving that started this train of thought.

My oldest son is 8. Every now and then he will remind the driver about turn signal usage, and I caught him one time trying to see the speedometer, "just to make sure daddy was doing the right thing." Mildly irritating, but not bad. There are other passengers much older than 8, and that experience is...well...um...let's just say it's the polar opposite. To prevent my own demise, I will leave well enough alone.

And then there's my 3 year-old. He's strapped in his car seat, safe and secure. He has a few toys to keep him entertained, a juice cup to quench any thirst, and depending on how long the trip will be, there are snacks, too. He spends most of his time playing, talking with the other passengers in the car, and watching all of the scenery that goes by. Sometimes he'll point out things he sees to the rest of us, but for the most part, he's simply enjoying the ride and looking forward to the destination. He has total trust in his dad driving the car. No fear. No panic. No backseat driving.

As I thought about the journey on which God has placed me, I couldn't help but realize I more often resemble the older passengers in the car when I should be following the example of my youngest son. If God really is in the driver's seat in my life, then I don't need to freak out about all of the things I perceive as potential hazards, I don't need to check and see if He's doing everything correctly, I don't need to offer my assistance, and I sure don't need to tell Him to "look out!" Instead of being a backseat driver, I need to have the child-like faith that my precious 3 year-old exhibits so well:

Friday, December 13, 2013

Keep Walking


Sometimes on the journey, you realize that you are surrounded by cold and death.
Keep walking; this is the journey you are to take.

Sometimes on the journey, your hopes, plans and dreams are uprooted and come crashing down.
Keep walking; this is the journey you are to take.

Sometimes on the journey, a little bit of light shines through.
Keep walking; this is the journey you are to take.

Sometimes on the journey, you notice things you haven't been able to see before.
Sometimes on the journey, you realize the death around you has enabled sight.
Sometimes on the journey, you can't make out all of the details.
Keep walking; this is the journey you are to take.

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Prayer with Thanksgiving > Anxiety and Worry


6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. - Philippians 4:6-7

I don't know about you, but there are many times I struggle with not being anxious. I know I’m not alone because there are psychology textbooks that are devoted entirely to this issue, people all across the country are taking medication to deal with their anxiety, and the research community continues to analyze the reasons and effects of worry. One such study was done by Dr. Walter Calvert, and here’s what he found:
  • 40% of what you worry about will not happen (that's almost half! Almost half of your worries are never going to happen in the first place!)
  • 30% of your worries concern the past (does anybody else find this ridiculous? What are you going to do about it? It's the past!)
***For those keeping score, 70% of your worries aren't going to happen or you can't do anything about!
  • 12% of your worries are unfounded health issues (have any of you ever worried yourself back into health?)
  • 10% of your worries are insignificant and petty issues
  • Which leaves only 8% of your worries having actual legitimate concerns...8%!

Pretty shocking statistics! They certainly don’t resemble the trust in God that Paul advocates in our passage. And even though Dr. Calvert says 8% of our worries are legitimate, I think the Word of God says otherwise!

Here’s the good news - Paul tells us there is an answer to anxiety, and that is prayer. Not just any old haphazard prayer, but prayer with thanksgiving. See, when we are worried about everything, what happens to our vision? It starts to get clouded, and we fail to see all of the blessings that have already been poured out onto our lives.

And what an awesome promise we see in verse 7: if we will trade in our anxiety for prayer and thanksgiving, the God of all creation will give us His peace! A peace that not only completely satisfies, but that is greater than anything our feeble, little minds can even fathom. And that peace which passes all understanding will guard our hearts and our minds and protect us from all of the things that might destroy us. But, we have to trade in the worry and the anxiety.

May 2014 be the year when we worry less, pray more, and experience the peace of God in our lives like never before.